You’ll want to be a people magnet and attract people if you want to make friends easier. A lot of socially adept people are natural at this, and now you can be too.
To be a people magnet, you’ll need to tweak a couple of habits and personality aspects. This is so you can be more appealing and attractive to others that they’ll want to be near you or be comfortable being around you.
This is a process that can take time and definitely requires mindful effort, but the effects you’ll earn after this are very worthwhile. That said, here are some things you need to do to be a people magnet and attract the people around you.
Be mindful of your appearance
First things first, if you want to be a people magnet, you’ll need to start being mindful of your appearance. This sounds like superficial advice, but most people make it easier to trust someone who’s presentable and neat.
That said, start taking care of your physical health. Be sure to wear outfits that fit and suit your personality. Be neat and tidy. Other than these, make sure your body language screams confidence. Speaking of which…
Be mindful of your body language
You should also start being mindful of your body language. As mentioned, you’ll need to make sure your body language screams confidence. Stop slouching and start standing up straight. Make sure your body language is open by avoiding crossing your arms or leaning away.
Smiling can also help here. Smile and be comfortable with eye contact. That way, you’ll be able to connect with others much easier and they’ll get naturally attracted to you.
Start being a better listener
The better you are at listening to other people, the more magnetized they will be to you. A lot of people appreciate a person who’s a good listener. You will need to be that kind of person of you want to be a people magnet.
Having said this, it will serve you better to be better at conversations overall. You shouldn’t only be good at listening but you’ll actually need to be good at responding as well. You’ll need to be able to dissect everything another person says to you and use that information to construct the best responses.
Be more empathetic
You’ll also need to be more empathetic, aside from being a better listener. If being a good listener means you can understand everything a person says to you, being more empathetic means being able to understand exactly what another person is feeling.
Whenever you listen to the words and stories of others, try to put yourself in their position. Imagine what it would be like to be in their shoes. Start feeling the things they’re feeling. If you can do this, you’ll be able to understand other people better.
This is a great way to become a people magnet. Empaths attract people because they’re capable of understanding other people at a very complex level. With time and practice, you can be this kind of person too.
Be a person of action
You can say a lot of flowery and inspiring words and compliments to other people to impress them, but you’ll never really attract the others around you if you don’t follow those words up with actions. That said, it’s more than great to use nice words, but it’s way better to be a man of action.
When you say you’re going to do something, be sure to actually do them. Have this reputation and keep it going. People will appreciate you better if they know you’re the type of person who does the things you’ll say you’ll do. It shows honor and honesty and those traits will effectively make you a people magnet.
Be more open-minded
You will need to be more open-minded if you want to become a people magnet. The more people you’ll meet, the more you’ll encounter those who have different opinions from you. In some cases, this can create unwanted clashes. Make sure this doesn’t happen.
If you do come across people who have different views, beliefs, and opinions than yours, remain open-minded and promote a positive and healthy discussion. Listen to their arguments and make them feel heard. All the while, make sure you make your beliefs heard as well.
You don’t necessarily need to agree with every single argument you hear, but you should at least listen to them. People appreciate and are attracted to open-minded individuals because they’re respectful and mature enough to listen to opposing views.
Show interest when interacting with people
When you interact with people, make sure their words don’t just go through one ear and pass through the other. Make them feel heard and actually show interest to them. When they talk about their interests, show excitement too. They’ll highly appreciate the fact that you’re excited for them.
This is a very good personality trait to have and it’s something a lot of individuals who are people magnets have.
When someone talks about their interests, encourage them to talk about them more by asking follow-up and open-ended questions. They’ll appreciate you for it.
First impressions are very important
First impressions matter. If you want to be a people magnet, make sure to leave a great first impression with everybody you meet. You can do this by always being nice to everybody you meet. Don’t pretend to be a good person, actually be a good person.
Just follow everything you’ve read here thus far and the other points that are still to come and you’ll surely leave a good first impression on everyone you’ll meet. You’ll automatically become a people magnet to those you left a great first impression on.
Learn to give solicited advice
Individuals who are people magnets are very good at giving helpful advice. This is something you’ll need to do as well.
Thankfully, you can easily do this by employing two tactics we’ve already talked about. You will need to be a better listener and you’ll need to be empathetic. As long as you can keep those two things up, you’ll be able to give great and helpful advice to those who need them.
However, make sure to only give advice when it’s asked of you. Never give unsolicited ones. Sometimes, a person just wants to be listened to and sometimes they’ll want to hear a few words of encouragement. You’ll be able to deduce easily which one another person needs by simply being a good listener and being empathetic.
Be kinder to the people around you
It pays nothing to be kind. It’s a very simple thing you can do to make the world around you a brighter place and make the people around you feel just a little bit better. It just so happens that a lot of individuals who are people magnets are also very kind people. If you want to be a people magnet and have people become drawn to you, be kind.
Make this a habit. It will also do wonders for your mood as well. You’ll be surprised just how better you can make your life become just by being kind to others. Besides, if your mood is up, the way you treat other people is better. This will consequently help your goal to become a people magnet individual.
Be more confident
Earlier, we talked about having the body language of a confident person. Now you must keep in mind that this isn’t limited to just your movements. You actually need to become more confident as a person. That way, you won’t have to force your body to portray the body language of a confident person, you’ll simply be one and your movements will follow along naturally.
Being confident will also help you approach people better. It will make you appear more approachable and appealing. Any feelings and thoughts of anxiety or anything of the like will slowly dissipate as soon as you become more confident.
One of the best ways to become more confident is to have awareness of yourself and of the world around you. Take a look around you. If you’re going through problems, worries, and feelings of doubt, know that others are going through a similar predicament as well. Everyone has their own different stories and each problem is most certainly validated, but they can carry on and so should you.
Things can and will go wrong but that doesn’t mean you should let that wash over you. Don’t worry too much about the things you can control. Start looking at the brighter side of things and start believing that you are capable and that good things can and will happen to you.
Be confident physically and mentally. Talk and move like the confident person that you are. Not only will you become a people magnet, but your mental health will also be better for it.
Find a common ground with people
You will find it way easier to connect with people if you can find a common ground with them. When speaking with people, start talking about your interests and encourage them to talk about theirs. When you find that common interest, that’s something you can use as a foundation to interact with them further.
Connections are easily made just by doing this. The more people you connect with, the more sociable you will be. Others will see that too. Once it is seen and understood that you are someone who’s highly sociable, you’ll become a people magnet automatically.
Employ a more optimistic mindset
Nothing beats being a socially attractive person than being optimistic. People love someone who’s positive most of the time. A person who can’t seem to be beaten or put down by anything. Be the kind of optimist that faces the world head-on with a smile on their face regardless of any forthcoming struggles and hardships. If you can do this, the people around you will find you highly charming.
This is easier said than done, of course, especially if you’re someone who isn’t natural when it comes to being optimistic. While this is the case, it is something you’ll need to force yourself to do. Not only will this make you become a people magnet, but it will also help your mental well-being more stable and positive.
People feel more confident and comfortable being around someone they can relate to rather than someone they always look up to to the point of being intimidating. Be relatable. Don’t be ashamed to talk about your quirks and misdemeanors. It’s okay to talk about the things you failed to do sometimes. A lot of people are going to be able to relate to you. Everybody makes mistakes, after all.
In fact, you can even laugh at yourself for some of the embarrassing things you’ve done. This will make you seem like the kind of person who doesn’t take themselves too seriously and can laugh about their more awkward and embarrassing moments. People will be able to relate to this and will find you more socially attractive.
Use humor to your advantage
As a continuation of the previous point, it will also serve you better to use humor if you want to be a people magnet. You don’t need to be the funniest person in the room, but you will need to have a sense of humor to at least attract people. No one likes a dull individual who takes everything way too seriously. At the same time, no one likes people who are joking about every single subject or being sarcastic all the time. Find your balance.
Learn how to tell better stories
Captivate people by telling stories, whether they’re from your own experiences or from someone else’s, and you’ll be able to attract people naturally. People love stories, after all, and if you’re capable of telling them in such a captivating manner, people will love you for it.
This one takes a lot of practice to perfect. That said, take a story from your own life for now and practice telling it in a way that should captivate the listeners. Practice at home. Try telling it in front of a mirror. Make sure you tell your story coherently and make sure it flows naturally. Set every scene, mention details that are relevant, and leave out those that aren’t.
As mentioned, this will take a lot of practice, but as long as you do that, you’ll be able to attract people naturally in time.
Being a people magnet is easier said than done. That said, as long as you’re willing to commit, it’s certainly something you can make happen for yourself.
Be sure to improve your social skills too so that you can attract people with your charm and personality more naturally. Once you’re done with this article, be sure to study the other articles we have on this site. I’m sure you’ll find a lot of them useful.